Keep my parents in your prayers

[Driver1]

Prayers from Wisconsin

[Alan Dinan]

Prayers Arron 🙏🏻🙏🏻 It’s hard to make these decisions, but as others have said, you can’t be there 24-7.

My mom is in a nursing home now, was in assisted living since the beginning of 2020, had another stroke, mild, about a month ago and ended up in the hospital with a UTI. The assisted living facility decided that she needed more help and wouldn’t let her return. She seems to be in and out of coherent state now, we don’t know if it is the stroke or if it’s the meds that she is on, causing this.

[hardtail]

I agree with the rational to put some responsibility back on her anger and let her show you all she can return back home but it's going to take determination and effort on her part and health professionals to sign off on it.

My mom has dementia that is getting more advanced and while she is generally very happy which we are grateful for she can be extremely stubborn on certain issues and at times almost reverts back to child like, never engage in arguing with dementia people.

[ray54]

As the child it was hard to lie to dad. But once the dementia is at a point where they only remember for seconds. Tell him something he wanted to hear rather saying what would make him mad. Because once mad he would be mad and upset for hours, even though he did not remember why he was mad. My older sister had a real time with this after mom died. Just say she was in the hospital and would be back tomorrow. Since could not remember she died, don't open the wound. Every time he asked and someone said mom died it was like the first time so no healing from it, if death is fresh and multiply many times a day it helps no one.

We had a wonderful elder care specialist doctor. He only worked the care facilities. He worked very hard with dad to get the right amount of anti depressant drugs. Ten years latter we had the same doctor for my mother in law.  Still ok, but a much expanded business and a number of nurse practitioners the level of care about getting exact amounts of happy pills was not so good. But still giving happy pills is the way to go in my option.

[nepoweshiekfarmalls]

Thanks to everyone for the prayers.  Despite her initial anger, Mom is thriving in the nursing home.  Her health has improved beyond comprehension.   Even the edema in her legs has gone away.  She walked (with a walker) completely across the vast facility and back.  She refused to sit down for a break. Her appetite is good and She has put on a couple pounds.  Doctors and staff had a meeting on Thursday.   If She can maintain all the crucial nutrient levels another week, they will likely release her to come home.  She still privately argues with Dad and I about the diet they recommended for her.  We continue to support the doctor's recommendations.   A work in progress. 

[Kevin in ky]

Glad to hear that. I read this when you first posted and wanted to give some advice or encouragement but hadn’t been in that exact situation hope she keeps getting better.

[searcyfarms]

so glad 🙏

[augercreek]

We will still keep you all in our prayers! O Lord send your healing power to this family and continue to keep them and comfort them as they transition into this time of life.

[vtfireman85]

That’s great news! 

[IH Forever]

Glad to hear about the progress!  Hopefully she continues to improve.  

[cumminstinkerer]

@nepoweshiekfarmalls Glad to hear that Aaron, she is still in my thoughts and prayers, thanks again for the help last week, I am not sure how far he got over the weekend but he took the flywheel from me friday night, it turned very well!

[nepoweshiekfarmalls]

They visited out to my parent's house yesterday.  Had Mom move around the rooms to see how she interacts with her environment.   Then back to town and the nursing home.  If nothing changes, She will be discharged next Tuesday.  They will tailor her therapy this last week to prepare her to be back in the house.