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MinnesotaFarmall

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When I was growing up dad and all his friends (the local farmers) drank beer all day while they worked (farming mostly). Most of the time they stayed sober somehow but they must have had at least a slight buzz. They would measure a job based on how much beer it would tip to complete the job (6 pack, case, etc). Most of them were WWII or Korean vets and had a different outlook than most people today. They got it done but I only drink occasionally and never when working. I'd probably pass out if I drag that much!

I also remember when office people would have 'a three martini lunch' and nobody thought anything about it.

The navies of the world gave sailors a daily  ration of alcohol unit modern times. The royal navy ended the ration in 1970.

Times change.

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@MinnesotaFarmall good for you and Ill say a prayer.  I had a neighbor lose everything and is just a mess in his late 50s.  Just dont make sense to me honestly.  I have beer expire in the fridge!  When we go for supper id rather have some cheesecake and its calories than a beer so drink water or coffee.  Crazy how expensive liquor is in restaurants. 

I feel bad for people who have to have beers for the end of work day.  My reward is sitting with my wife and girls for dinner at the end of the day.

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6 minutes ago, TroyDairy said:

@MinnesotaFarmall good for you and Ill say a prayer.  I had a neighbor lose everything and is just a mess in his late 50s.  Just dont make sense to me honestly.  I have beer expire in the fridge!  When we go for supper id rather have some cheesecake and its calories than a beer so drink water or coffee.  Crazy how expensive liquor is in restaurants. 

I feel bad for people who have to have beers for the end of work day.  My reward is sitting with my wife and girls for dinner at the end of the day.

  I've been fortunate in that food has been my drug.  That good food helps to relax myself.  Alcohol has been a real issue in my mother's family and I am thankful that it never took up shop in my life.

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congratulations on your current progress and battle within @MinnesotaFarmall im the blacksheep of my family/siblings/parents/extended, I am the only one that doesnt drink. I was young and experienced so much drama because of it and almost killed my own sister having a chinese fire drill at 1100 at night in the middle of a two lane road with her drinking friends in high school. I topped the hill, thankfully driving like a normal person rather than my usual nascar speeds and she was frozen like a deer in the headlights and i barely swerved to to miss her. I also dealt with a father who was an angry drinker and we had confrontations for no apparent reason like described above due to inhibitions. 

I swore it off as the reason for all the drama and crying nights when mom wasnt sure where dad was. 

I dont judge, I just pray people manage it so it doesnt damage them or others. 

We all have addictions, some alcohol, some drugs, some food, some sex/porn, some like me work to numb whatever is bothering me. We all are guilty of it just pick our own poison. As someone else put here we are bound to deal with things some way due to many reasons/circumstances. We all have our own story and hopefully we write it and it doesnt write us. 

Hope you can keep things going in the right direction!!! Be strong and courageous, its worth it..........

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10 hours ago, 766 Man said:

  I've been fortunate in that food has been my drug.  That good food helps to relax myself.  Alcohol has been a real issue in my mother's family and I am thankful that it never took up shop in my life.

Food..... my wife says thats my problem.  Seefood diet..see it eat it

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I like one or two with dinner (evening meal). It’s been a quite few years since it got to be more than three.

When I was younger (20s+30s) I would go out couple times a month to the bars and have 5-6. Until I got a dwi 10+ years ago. After that I knew I got lucky. Pulled over for speeding, when I pulled over it was in a legal parking spot so my truck sat there till the next day. I was respectful to the cop so he was respectful back. He even gave me a ride home after paperwork was done. I think it cost me $3000 and that was cheap. I had to take a class with about a dozen other people and they were all $10000-12000. I don’t think my insurance company ever found out (thanks to NY charging them to check my record they won’t check if I don’t file a claim or buy new vehicle for 3 years)   I got real lucky but it was still a pain to go through. Didn’t have a drink at all for 6 months. Now it’s usually at home with dinner or if I do go out to concert or tractor pull or race I’ll stop at 2 if I’m driving. And I’m firm with stopping at two. It’s not worth it. 

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I’m somewhat of a social drinker. Home alone I might go a couple months without drinking alcohol. Lisa home and I will have 1 or 2 with her. Rarely do I have any if I am not at home. 
I have been around people who can’t stop. If they have 1, they have to drink it all. 
I admire your fortitude! Like Robert, my addiction is work, or at least being busy. 

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Aside from the usual late teenage just turning 21 escapades, I went through a rough patch from 2009-2011 boozing trying to "find myself" during that mini economic depression after losing 2 really good jobs. Would look for bars that had specials every night of the week.  Lots of college aged buddies yet then to partake in it with. 

Pulled my head out of my rear and realized that was a dead end and focused on burning the candle at both ends and using that drinking time to work and get some monet in my pocket using my schooling a d experience.  Still partied some but became less and less.  I'm still bitter how much farther ahead I could be now if i had those lost years back.  

Got married in 2017 and that pretty much ended it all having kids.  I NEVER want to see my kids see me in a questionable state.  I always looked up to my dad being sober and responsible, and I plan to do the same.  

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