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On 12/5/2021 at 2:28 PM, hillman said:

I know so much about this many times over and Mudfly gave the best advice. Many couples have this happen once and others not so lucky

 

 You and your lady  will be fine mader- odds are with you

 

 to the others, if you know a young couple who do not have children yet please  don't ask them when they are going to start a family! they may be having trouble or may not ever be able to have a child and your asking could be causing more hurt than you can imagine behind the scenes:blush: I am speaking from experience and it can be life changing ( Thats more about my personal life than I have ever posted)

This is so true. Been there, felt that.

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On 12/5/2021 at 11:36 AM, Mudfly said:

Prayers sent.  Just know that this happens more than you realize.  Most people don’t talk about it. We lost a pregnancy at nearly 3.5 months.  Not fun.  
 

just remember that no matter what or how you feel you wife is feeling 10x worse.  Be extra caring and supportive. She will need it.

  Happened to my wife 3X that we know of.  None as late as yours.  Terrible no matter who or when.  It's been many years for us since but just recently I had a repeat of a sense of loss and emptiness.  I don't think that a person who experiences such ever completely puts it behind them.  Just take your time and grieve in your own way.  

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Sorry for your loss, Mader. My wife and I have been down that road a couple times. Like others have said, no matter how bad it hurts, it’s worse for your wife. Remember the day in future years and you will be her hero (not that you aren’t already)

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I am very sorry for your loss.  Although I haven't personally experienced anything like this I have seen the pain that it has caused for a family that we know and work with.  Hang in there.

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My prayers are with you and your dear wife.  We have 3 healthy children, 2 of which are married.  Son and wife lost a little girl at 33 weeks, lived for 35 minutes. Preemy, abnormal growth (leg missing, etc.) that the Lord took home early.  They are now expecting another child which is now about 35 weeks along and seems all OK, but the mother is just nervous as can be.  The married daughter lost a son at about 3.5 months, later adopted two adorable Chinese children that they love as their own.  She never was able to conceive easily, having to fight tooth and nail for the son they lost.  So, I have grandchildren in heaven waiting for me!!  Best wishes to you as you go through this tough time together. 

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We are processing thru trying to be more intentional with our kids...

Sunday my son said to me I'm sorry you lost our baby sister...

I'm attempting to keep strong for my wife. I've reached out to many people and it helps process grief... 

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8 hours ago, mader656 said:

I'm attempting to keep strong for my wife. I've reached out to many people and it helps process grief..

Glad to hear that you reached out it helps some. God only throws at us what we can handle. It is hard for us to understand and wonder why.  If you ever want to talk PM me and I'll send you my number. Take care and I will be keeping you and family in thoughts and prayers.

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This thread is great in its own way.

I found out first hand that so many others had experienced what I'd experienced and that they'd hurt just as bad as I did. Only, it seems everyone deals with it behind closed doors, so I felt like I was the only person this had happened to. Worse, I felt like there was no way a father, a man, had ever felt as pathetic and emotional as I did, since I'd never known about it happening to anyone. Only after did I realize that I was far from alone.

Men need to talk about things, if not for themselves, then for others. I am an admitted Momma's boy and I have two sisters with no brothers. However, I've found that finding and having a good few men to talk to makes talking easier, in my case.

 

 

ANYONE who wants to talk with me over a virtual beer is very, very welcome to. PM me and I'll send you my number. I'd share more if this wasn't open to the whole of the internet.

 

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