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My girlfriends daughter and her husband have been separated for a few years and the 2 little girls ages 11 and 13 go to his house quite a bit on weekends and so on. Well i got a text and the little girls dad died in his sleep last night and was 50 years old. They were not there and was at grandmas and those 2 little girls are devastated. He had a good job working for a excavating company and was good at his job. He was in good health and it happens every once in a while a person will die while sleeping but 50 years is not real old but not real young either. I worry about these kids as they had been back and forth to moms, dads or grandmas for the last several years. May God help them

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  This may not be a popular opinion here but the best thing you can do is set up some barriers and maintain them.  Many people have brought in outsiders for various reasons only to ruin their own lives.  If your girlfriend lives with you then you are already off to a very bad start.  You will wind up beholden to what ever she says to your detriment.  It's sad with what is going on with the kids but nobody is going to help you if that family sinks you financially or otherwise.  I'm getting ready to have an extremely frank conversation tonight with my wife concerning her brother.  It is not going to be pretty but I am not going to be pulled down by him because he can't control himself.  

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2 hours ago, 766 Man said:

  This may not be a popular opinion here but the best thing you can do is set up some barriers and maintain them.  Many people have brought in outsiders for various reasons only to ruin their own lives.  If your girlfriend lives with you then you are already off to a very bad start.  You will wind up beholden to what ever she says to your detriment.  It's sad with what is going on with the kids but nobody is going to help you if that family sinks you financially or otherwise.  I'm getting ready to have an extremely frank conversation tonight with my wife concerning her brother.  It is not going to be pretty but I am not going to be pulled down by him because he can't control himself.  

No we do not live together. She has enough on her plate taking care of those 2 little girls when they are there. I do not go around a lot at different times because just so much demand on her to help with them as 1 of them is type 1 diabetes 

 

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sad - not only the death but the lil ones and the entire situation, yes prayers for so many things here, if there is one thing I know its that Children are high priority for our Lord. I have hope in that for sure.

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The girls are the innocents and at a tough age.

They need a strong loving father figure now more than ever.

Prayers that they get the support they will need to get through their loss.

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Wow one of my biggest fears not being able to be there for my daughter. I feel so bad for those kids and hope they have someone who can step up and help them not replace him but help mold them in the right direction while honoring their dad. I worry that if something was to happen to me what my x would do it been hard for the past 4 years my little one has asked (Dad how come you don’t hate mom like she hates you ) I just tell her she’s your mother I always have to like that. I may not like her actions  but I won’t let my daughter know. I’m glad for a big involved family on my side that I know would look out for my daughter if something was ever to happen to me. Prayers out for the family in a time like this they will need all the help they can get. 

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13 hours ago, hagan said:

No we do not live together. She has enough on her plate taking care of those 2 little girls when they are there. I do not go around a lot at different times because just so much demand on her to help with them as 1 of them is type 1 diabetes 

 

  Hopefully, most if not all of that family are people of good character but often it is not that way.  I have seen several times where there may be victims in a family there are also predators.  I've seen people lose all they had financially trying to be the good Samaritan.  Don't let your emotions cloud your thinking.

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